My Mom had to change psychiatrists earlier this year. I’ve been telling her for years that she needed a new psychiatrist, but she wouldn’t listen to me until her psychiatrist announced that she was going to retire. It sounds like an easy thing to do. It’s not.

Getting rid of your psychiatrist is like getting a divorce. There were a lot of hard feelings, misunderstandings and “If that’s her tell her I’m not here!” type of situations I had to deal with. The old psychiatrist recommended several new head docs for Mom — but none of which took Medicare (a big must) OR did they have wheelchair-accessible offices. How the hell can you have a medical office and not be wheelchair accessible? Very easily, apparently. In return, Mom didn’t return most of the old psychiatrists’ phone calls.

Mom also asked to have her medication reduced during this time. The old psychiatrist disagreed for months and suddenly told her to drop an entire dose all of a sudden. (This was a med she had to take twice a day.) I’m not a psychiatrist, but even I knew that this was way too drastic of a drop of a psych med. You usually have to split pills into quarters (somehow) and the second dose would be three-quarters of a pill instead of just dropping an entire pill. Mom nearly had such a breakdown that I wondered if she needed to be hospitalized.

So when you are changing your psychiatrists, brace yourself. If they want to, they’ll get you by the balls. You can’t really complain because you’ll sound as if you were crazy.




Hi, gals! Never had a panic attack before? Feel left out? Well, all good things to those who wait….and bad things, too.

One of the things they don’t tell you about menopause is that you often get gripped with sudden, irrational panic attacks. Oh, they tell you about the night sweats, the sudden hair growth on areas of your body (except the top of your head) and the chocolate cravings, but the panic attacks are not often mentioned. The bad news is that panic attacks are never a thrill ride, no matter what your age. The good news is that they don’t last and can often be managed.

Come Ride the Hormone Rollercoaster

The older I get, the more I’m wish my parents had me spayed when they had the chance …

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I haven’t been posting as much to this blog as I usually do. Sorry about that. I’ve been having some real tough times because my Mom’s body is basically falling apart. I spend most of my time taking care of her. I have less time than ever to write and when I do, I have to try and make some money. (I don’t make anything with this blog.) Making money with my writing not only helps my bank account, but also helps my mental health.

So now I’m taking some of the posts from this blog and putting them up on Bubblews.  (Yes, it’s spelled like that.) I’ve heard both good and bad things about this site from other online content writers. I’m hoping it’s worked it’s kinks out and that I actually get paid when I’m supposed to. If you are already a Bubblews member and read this blog (hey — it could happen) than I apologize in advance for the doubled content.

In the  meantime, keep on taking the meds and keeping your doctor appointments.

See you when I see you.

More studies are coming out showing the many physical differences between the brains of murderers and psychopaths and the brains of “normal” people. It’s hoped that isolating the causes could lead to treatments to fix those changes and possibly prevent murderers from killing again. Although such treatments are decades in the future, identifying brain abnormalities can be done in the present time….

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I wish I looked half as good when I get angry.

“Don’t make me angry.  You wouldn’t like me when I’m angry.” — David Banner (The Incredible Hulk)

Anger is a tool.  It is neither good nor bad in and of itself — it just is.  Anger can be used for good or for bad.  It’s not fun to be angry — at least, I don’t think it’s fun to be angry.  When I get angry, my head hurts, I shake and my stomach gets upset.  I’m not fond of any of those sensations.

However, being a stereotypical Scorpio, it takes me a good long while to settle down when I get angry.  I used to beat myself up for being “sinful” when I was angry.  Now, I don’t (much).  Instead, I try to use my anger constructively.  Key word is try — I don’t always succeed.) This not only lowers my body’s stress responses, but sometimes gets something done.

Chop Wood

When I lived in the woods outside of Bathwick, England, my only means of power was from firewood.  I had to spend a couple of hours a day collecting firewood and kindling, hauling it back to camp, sawing it into manageable chunks with a bow saw and then chopping the heck out of it.  It took a lot of energy.  Fortunately (I say with my tongue firmly in my cheek), I had a turbulent relationship with a blue-eyed alcoholic.  Needless to say, I was angry almost every day.  But I used the anger constructively by filling the wood boxes.

Some days, I still miss chopping wood.

Cute With Chris LIVE

An even better example can be seen from actor Chris Leavins, who has an extremely popular (and extremely funny) web series and blog called Cute with Chris.  (Before you click over there — be advised that adult language is used).  Although he does not get paid for his show, he puts a lot into it.

One day in early January, he received an email from “Rhonda of Hollywood”

“Dear Chris:

I am an actor, too (stage actor).  I am thinking of starting an internet show to spread my talents but I worry that it will affect the way I’m seen as a stage performer.  Your show is charming, but often strikes me as being very amatuer.”

I don’t know about you, but nothing ticks Chris off more than having his beloved show being called “very amateur.”  He used his anger constructively and, in a mere 18 days, wrote, produced, promoted and starred in a one man live version of his internet show called “Cute With Chris LIVE”.  And in the front row was a sign taped to a chair that read, “Reserved for Rhonda.”  The show was hysterical.

Now that is using the tool of anger constructively.

This is a small book covering a large topic — the history of the treatment of mentally ill patients. Since this is short book with lots of illustrations, I’ll give it a short review — PASS. Although a short book on mental illness treatment seems like a good idea, it’s not. You just cannot do justice to this subject in a hundred pages (or so.)

I was very disappointed with this book published by Oxford University Press in 2008. Madness: A Brief History has two very repetitive chapters (to the point where they were nearly identical). Modern treatment only got a brief mention. Causes of mental illness gets no mention, unless it related to the history of how patients were treated.

The history of Bedlam (the popular name for England’s Bethlem Royal Hospital) was a rare high point, as well as how Freud came to his theory of infant sexuality. There are some nice quotes as well to introduce the chapters.

This was one of Roy Porter’s last books before his tragic early death in 2002 at the age of 55 from a heart attack while exercising. I hope his other ones were better than this one.